An accountability coaching program for chronically ill WOC and NBPOC who want to learn how to set goals and work on their goals in ways that honor their health and capacity.
Navigating known or unknown chronic health conditions and symptoms
while hustling, "grinding until we shine right", and
"fakin' it until we make it" is exhausting.
Often we work on our goals, set more goals, meet the original goal,
and set more, on repeat nonstop disregarding how we feel
until our bodies force us to stop.
While this mentality of choosing to
"sleep when we are dead"
helps us survive capitalism and build better lives
for ourselves and our loved ones in the short-term,
it is an unsustainable long-term method of survival for many
or most after a certain age.
Think of yourself or people you know and love. So many are navigating
difficult health issues and are barely making ends meet.
Capitalism demands we prioritize our bills and whatever
makes us money, over our health issues and bodies.
It's an overwhelming way to exist.
Many of us are ready to
learn how to navigate our everyday responsibilities
and work on our goals in a way that doesn't
leave us feeling like shit day in and day out.
We are ready to work and achieve our goals in a way that allows us
to actually enjoy our successes, time with ourselves and loved ones,
better manage symptoms and heavy emotions, all while
staying as strong and stable as possible.
Changing your mindset and lifestyle to priortize your
health while you work requires a holistic accountability mindset.
An accountability mindset practice that is gentle enough to consider all of the
factors that led to and contribute to your health condition
and unmet goals without judgements, comparisons, or fixed ideas.
Judgement, comparison, and fixed idea-free so that there's space
for you to create new ways for navigating your goals and
health. It's a tough process as it may challenge the
ways you and your loved ones have used to survive this far.
It's tough, but not impossible and you are not alone.
I've been there and I got you.
I created Hold Myself. Accountable (HM.A)
to coach you to hold yourself accountable - to gently consider
all of the factors that get in the way of or facilitate your ability
to set and meet goals, and negatively affect your health, and
hold yourself - to hold space for your health and tough
emotions and thoughts that come up as you go through life.
You can't change your past actions that led to your health issues.
You can, however, hold space for yourself and hold yourself accountable
as you move forward in new, different ways that honor your health
and make your goals more manageable.
HM.A is a 10-week accountability coaching program where I, Coach Ve, coach you build
your own accountability lens, so you
hold space for yourself, your blocks, and your new health capacities,
and to hold yourself accountable
through reflection and changing your current approach to your health, life, and goals.
In 10 weeks:
>> We use the HM.A systems engineering and situational awareness frameworks to holistically acknowledge the factors and blocks affecting your health and preventing you from achieving your goals.
>> We use S.M.A.R.T. goals to transform your goal into smaller, management tasks that allow you to honor your capacities while you make progress towards your goals.
>> You master practicing no judgements, no comparisons, and no fixed ideas so you are more gentle with yourself as you navigate the unexpected health and life events.
>>Create S.M.A.R.T. goals to transform your goal into a list of small, manageable weekly tasks
>>Use the HM.A systems engineering and situational awareness frameworks to holistically acknowledge the factors and blocks affecting your health and preventing you from achieving your goals.
>>Identify ways to reclaim your time and energy for yourself and your health and goals
>>Between weekly coaching sessions, Coach Ve will check-in with you on your progress and whether you need support, so you meet your weekly goals
>>Reminders to practice No Judgements, No Comparisons, and No Fixed Ideas
>>No more waiting for the "right time" and get stuff done now
>>Work on goals alongside your awesome, supportive accountability partners
>>Get in the habit of alotting dedicated time for you, your health, and your goals
(a) How did I get here? Which parts of my life and lifestyle may have contributed to this diagnosis?
(b) What am I going to do differently moving forward to stay strong and stable?
(c) What is my value in my relationships if my body can no longer do everything like before?
(d) How can I tend to my health and emotions, and still achieve my goals?
(e) Which of my goals feel like what I'm "supposed to" want? Which of my goals are to gain status, respect, and admiration? Which of my goals belong to others? Which of my goals truly fulfill me? Which of my goals are worth pursuing and in what order?
These are just some of the questions I used to hold myself and hold myself accountable while recovering from the flare up that led to my diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS) in spring of 2019. MS demanded that I make changes in my life, which I made and I've been relapse-free ever since.
>> was a real engineer because I realized I couldn't care less about solving data problems but rather problems marginalized people faced in the systems they navigate?
>> could continue obsessing over achieving non-stop, under high amounts of stress and as my physical and mental health declined?
>> truly desired to be in STEM, a space that would financially sustain me but upholds racist, capitalistic, exploitative ideologies that directly hurt me and my BIPOC communities?
>> had pursued a STEM career thinking I wouldn't be enough otherwise and where this idea came from?
>> could create something to support motivated people navigating chronic illness(es) to overcome self-defeating ideas and habits often caused by their environments, so they don't have to struggle like I did and can achieve what they've always wanted without sacrificing their health, sense of self, and/or self-worth?
A human who wants you to be kind to your body
and share your magic with the world.
Founder and Accountability Coach
"Before joining HM.A, I was all over the place with a laundry list of goals. I had too much on my mind and not sure where to start. Honestly, it was very overwhelming. HM.A helped me focus on one of the most important goals on my list. Coach Ve was able to guide me to the most important goal that called to my heart. I appreciate that guidance. I was able to break down the goal into manageable tasks. The accountability part was also something I never thought I needed. My wonderful accountability group was a safe space for me to share my goals without judgment. It felt refreshing to have that kind of support."
"Coach Ve is one of the most compassionate people I’ve ever met and the HM.A group is a place where all the feels are embraced. Coach Ve and fellow HM.A friends motivated me to push myself and go for things I would have previously set aside--dismissed due to lack of confidence. But, having these people in my life and knowing that we were all rooting for each other gave me this sense of courage to move past my insecurities and apply for a job, take that ½ day to rest unapologetically, pursue a new professional field, and overall just believe in myself. Because after a while, it wasn’t just about my journey, it was about all of us in the HM.A group and our collective, supportive energy to all move forward together. It was one of the first groups of people that I felt I could lay so much of my personal pain out. It was a space where I could be vulnerable and empowered in the same breath."
"I have decided to go after everything that I want. Making goals, plans, and doing the work. I am most proud of not allowing my insecurities or anxiety take control of my path. I have practiced the HM.A mantra by not allowing myself to stay in a box. I know that society's standards are not for me."
"HM.A has impacted me to really put myself first. To choose me and not feel guilty about it. It's different to be in a space where I allow myself to work and improve on myself. That has impacted me to set aside time, and write down my goals, and live my life the way that I want to, and be unapologetically myself, and have those boundaries. That was like a first and it's the best. It's liberating to feel those ways"